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But don’t want any of my children to marry more than a wife – Chief Simon Odo
Chief Simon Odo alias Onuwa, a herbalist, is based
in Aji village, Enugu-Ezike, Igboeze North Local Government Area, Enugu
State. In this exclusive interview with Daily Trust on Sunday, Onuwa,
who boasts of 150 grand children, says he will not count the number of
his children until he stops procreating. Excerpts: How do you describe yourself?
My name is Simon Odo alias Onuwa in Aji, Enugu-Ezike. My nickname is
King of Satan. If you go to my cars, you will see the inscription: King
of Satan.Why do you answer King of Satan as your nickname name?
King of Satan means that I am a traditionalist. I’m not a Christian
anymore. I was baptised as a Christian in 1956. And I was a mass server
between 1959 and 1960 and the evil and wicked people who didn’t want me
to live, poisoned me with ukwaranta (whooping cough) which I suffered
for five years. Thereafter, somebody kept poison for me and I marched on
it. Consequently, my right thigh (he pulls his trousers for the
reporter to see the deep scar on his lap) got lacerated for five years
and I was taken to another place for medicine. So I decided to embrace
the traditional way of life and I survived the sickness. When the enemy
wanted to terminate my life, I was still single. So I survived the king
of Satan. What I don’t do is bad medicine. I don’t go near human blood
at all. That’s why I married 57 wives. My grandchildren are 150 in
number.Did you say 150?
Yes, I said 150.Did you pay bride prices before you married your 57 wives?
Ok. I’m coming. (He enters the inner room and reappears with a book
containing names of his wives and children). You know our community has
taboos, if you go into fornication or adultery in our place, your
children will be condemned or you may go mad. Here are the names of my
children and my wives. The names of my wives covered two pages of the
notebook – Igbo women are there, Yoruba women are there, Awka in
Anambra, every tribe is there. Now, coming to your question, I paid the
bride price on the head of all my wives as tradition demands. Above
that, there are some of my in-laws, I bought cars for and also built
comfortable houses for them. Some of my mothers- in-law I built a
bungalow for. The wife that is next to my junior wife, I dashed her
mother Peugeot 406 car. I spend as from N300,000 upward whenever I’m
going to marry. I don’t marry from big (rich) families. I marry from the
poorest families so that I can help them. If I want to marry a woman
and she tells me that she is from a well-to-do family, I won’t marry her
again. I suffered a lot in this life. As you hear the story of Job in
the Bible, I suffered like Job. This snuff I am taking now, I started
taking it in the year 1960 when I was in Standard Three. The cough
poison which the evil people inflicted me made me to drop out of school
at Standard Three. I hope you know that Standard Three is not Elementary
Three? Whatever I’m telling you is the truth because you came all the
way from Enugu, which is a very far distance, to come and interview me
and so I will not like to tell you lies.People say that your wives live like sisters from the same mother. What’s the secret?
It’s not just that they live like sisters from the same womb but they
eat from the same plate. They cook in the same pot. My wives don’t
fight, they don’t quarrel. If any of them fights, I sack her without
wasting time. And when I sack the person, I wouldn’t go asking for the
things I spent on her head as bride price.Has any woman left you under such circumstance?
If I sack my wife, I remarry. About seven have misbehaved and I sacked
them. But if the wife I sacked should repent and beg for forgiveness, I
remarry her.How do you fend for a large family of over one hundred members?
Whatever question you want to ask me, don’t shy away from such question,
and I’ll answer you. Don’t ask me indirect question. The way I take
care of my large family is simple. Thankfully, those I saved their
souls, helped to solve their numerous spiritual problems, usually come
to do thanksgiving here. And they help me a lot. If you look round the
compound, you will see vehicles parked inside which they dashed me after
I had solved their problems. It is my destiny to help people. And it’s
God that solves their problems, using me as an intermediary.How many children do you have?
I don’t know the exact number of my children. I don’t want to count them until I stop procreation.Are all of them going to school or do you train them in other skills?
All of them go to school. I encourage them to go to school, except if
they don’t have the brain for that. Yet, you must have a skill in my
family. If you don’t have a skill, that means you don’t want to be
useful and I will chase you out of my family. Of course, nobody steals
here. You can’t be in my house and decide to steal. Stealing is
forbidden in my family. That’s why no matter the size of my family, you
can’t see any member of this family stealing. If anybody from this
family steals, the person knows the punishment I will give him or her-I
will kill the person.Do any of your children want to become herbalist?
None of them is showing such interest. They are not showing interest in
my kind of occupation. All I need to do is to bless them so that God
will help them in whatever they do. But I emphasise to them, never steal
anybody’s thing. If you steal, I will denounce you as my child.Isn’t it surprising that none of your many children, either male or female, is showing interest in what you are doing?
In the first place, I did not learn this occupation. It’s my God’s gift
to me. Many of my children are pastors in The Lord’s Chosen Charismatic
Church. Many of my children are Christians. But I used to tell them that
whatever anybody is doing, don’t allow abomination to come into it.
Don’t use it to perpetrate injustice or falsehood or impunity.Who are your patronisers?
Those I help are many. When politicians who are aspiring to positions
come to me for help, I usually pray for them. But I must emphasise to
them that if God helps them to get to the positions, they must govern
well and they should not misbehave with the public offices entrusted in
their care. But where the person gets into office and begins to
misbehave, I am not to blame, I only prayed for him, I am not God who
gives position, I‘m not God who controls the affairs of men.How many bags of rice are consumed daily or weekly or monthly in your house?
Truly speaking, some of my wives are well to do, they are established
and they are helping to carter for the family. But when I want to go an
extra mile, I provide them with bags of rice two times or three times in
a week. I am living with the young ones, I’m almost 70 years. I trained
the old ones who, in turn, help to train their younger ones. Most
people outside there don’t know the trick: they think I am the only
person catering for the entire large family.When you were in your 40s, for instance, how did you feed them, especially in providing source of protein to the family?
I killed three, four, five cows every month to provide meat which is a
good source of protein for the family every month. If you are in doubt, I
can take you to the place I kept the skull of the cows I have killed
over the years, so that you see them.Any of your sons a polygamist like you?
No, I don’t want to encourage them to marry more than one wife. They
must all marry one wife each because there is no land to occupy more
people. I built 15 different storey buildings to accommodate members of
my large family. As my child, if you grow up, you go out and build your
own house and thank God.You married over 50 wives…?
(Cuts in) I married over 57 wives.How old are you this year?
I was born in the year 1947, almost 68 years now.And you decided to produce a whole community…don’t you think you are causing population problems for the country?
No. The truth is that my father was the only son of his parents, Papa bu
ofu nwa. And he vowed that in his next coming (reincarnation), he was
going to have large family full of his many children. And what he wished
came to pass or don’t you know there’s power in the tongue, in the
spoken words?Do you have regret marrying many wives?
No. There is no regret.Assuming any of your sons should marry more than one wife, how would you view such act?
If any of my sons marries more than one wife, contrary to my
instruction, he should go and buy his own land and build his own house
elsewhere. But as for staying in my compound with more than one wife, it
won’t work.How old is your oldest wife?
My oldest wife was 56 years old before she died.What about the youngest? How old is she and how do you manage to…?
(Cuts in) Are you talking of the last one? She is 15 years. Should I
call her for you so that you see her? (He goes out to call the youngest
wife, Chidinmma. After this reporter has photographed her, he asked her
to leave) Very good of you to have asked that question-the way I used to
behave when I was young is the way I behave now. I know where you are
going to. I know the question you want to ask. The vigour I used to have
when I was young is still in me now. I don’t have female friends! I
don’t have concubines. I don’t go after other men’s wives. I face my
wives only.How do you feel marrying 15 year-old- girl who is young enough to be your grandchild?
I am as healthy as I was when I was young because I don’t bother myself
with troubles of this world. I am not an enemy of progress. I don’t envy
anybody. I don’t begrudge anyone. I try to go about my own way and mind
my business. Sometimes I drive myself to Lagos. What I’m doing is just a
gift from God. If you come here in the next 10 years, I will still
remain youthful as I’m today.What is the secret of your youthful look?
I don’t eat the kind of food you people eat these days. I eat the type
our fathers ate. I eat our natural food. I don’t drink alcohol and I
don’t smoke.You have never taken alcohol since you were born?
I stopped drinking alcohol in 1998. I used to drink a lot.Why did you stop drinking?
Alcohol destroys man’s sperm. I am careful about my life and that’s why I
am alive today. I don’t eat a lot. Sometimes, I eat once or twice in a
day. One of the causes of sudden deaths these days is: somebody will eat
one chicken, drink a bottle of big stout, or Gulder, Star and palm
wine. Such eating and drinking habit can kill early. But if you can
avoid too much consumption of all these stuffs and live the way God has
created you, hardly can you have health problems.Do you go to hospital?
I do go to hospital. I go to see the doctor for check-up because I have many wives. I don’t joke with my health.People say you use juju to control all your wives so that they will be obedient to you. Is it true?
No. There is nothing like using medicine or juju to control them. A
woman is like a dog that bites. Is there any juju you can use to control
a dog that bites? Tell me the name of such medicine, please, if you
know of any. It is just the gift and wisdom God gave that I use in
controlling them. I don’t use charms or juju to control them.One of your young wives, Ndidi, gave birth to a set of twins. Has God blessed you with twins before?
I have been blessed with sets of twins, from different wives, almost six
times. Should I call the latest set of twins and their mother, Ndidi,
so that you see them? Ndidi Agada gave birth to twins – Ebele Odo and
Ngozi Odo on October 19, 2014.What will you tell young men who want to marry?
I have always told my sons never to marry more than one wife because if
you marry more than one wife, how to feed them may become a big problem.
I will not live in the world forever. If your father is a man who has a
limited company, it doesn’t imply that the son must have few
accomplices.What lesson would you like your children or other people to learn from you?
Whatever you enjoy doing develop it and use it to help people. If your
gift is to trade, you face trading, if your gift is in public service,
you face it and use it to help people. If your gift is to be a pastor,
then you face it and spread the word of God. Some of my children have
money but when you are rich, you try and help your fellow men. Some of
my children are abroad. Normally, when you go to some large families,
you will likely see some deformed people – imbecile, insane people, deaf
and dumb and things like that. But in my own case, God has blessed my
family in such a manner that such deformity does not exist in my large
family..How do villagers see you?
They love me essentially because I’m not a liar. I don’t offend people. I
stay here and people visit me. My vehicles, at times, may stay here up
to six months without me driving any. I recall when one Reverend Father
and Reverend Sister visited me and asked me why is it that I’m answering
King of Satan regardless of the fact that I’m doing good by helping
people? I explained it from the Bible.They said, please, Onuwa, leave us
to rest and discuss the reason for which we are here. But I insisted
they must listen to me. If anybody is answering King of God, let him
answer but as for me, I will answer King of Satan. How many people did I
dash cars? How many people did I dash motorcycles? I bought 96 machines
which I dashed out to people and 10 vehicles which I gave out to help
people. Have you seen anybody I gave motorcycle got involved in an
accident with it? Or have you seen anyone I gave a vehicle and he got
involved in an accident with it? The priest was nodding his head.What advice do you have for the government and those in leadership positions?
If you are a governor, govern well. Do not use your position to suppress
people, especially the innocent, poor people because if any leader
decides to oppress the poor, whenever such leader leaves this planet,
others will oppress his own children. People in leadership positions
should not encourage nepotism. I told the vigilante people in our
community that if you arrest any of my children who is doing evil, just
deal with him, don’t say because he is the son of a prominent person,
Onuwa, you can let him go while you punish an innocent poor person who
didn’t commit any offence. Don’t use your high position to snatch
somebody’s wife or land or shed innocent blood so that God’s anger will
not come upon you because there is something called the law of karma
which still exists.
TA staircase is one of the best workout
equipments in existence. The best part about it is that we can have free
access to a set of stairs. Have you ever noticed that your heart rate
increases every time you climb the stairs? That is because stair
climbing is considered a “vigorous” exercise by many scientific studies.
We burn a large amount of calories climbing the stairs in either
direction.
Using the stairs is
especially effective on the backside as this motion targets the glutes
and hamstrings. This combination of cardiovascular and toning exercises
is a good way to create and maintain a lifted and firm look in our bums.
Now
imagine adding some of the best butt workouts to speed up the fat
burning and shaping results that we achieve using the stairs. In this
workout video, we feature a great, full-body workout that everyone can
do. All you need are stairs, and you can modify this entire workout on a
step bench or on the floor. In addition to squats and lunges, we have
burpees, pushups, and mountain climbers to target the arms and abs. So
roll out of bed, put your sneakers on, and get a quick-yet-effective, 4
minute workout before you start your day!
Thanks to the internet, the number of jobs you can do from home has grown exponentially. Here are 5 great ones: Teacher – This is a very common home-based job. You can run a crèche or even a day care centre from your own garage. There’s always a high demand for education, specifically for young first-time business owners. Source: Huffington Post Medical consultant – After years of community service in hospitals, you can run your own general practice from home. This
arrangement is also economically viable as it saves you petrol and rent
money for an office space, which would have been outside your home. Source: amednews.com Web search evaluator - This job entails improvement of search engine results on an internet browser. You can do this for major companies such as Google and Yahoo! and earn decent cash. Source: Huffington Post Freelance writer -
You can contribute content to an established online or print
publication from home. This is great for those wanting to have a
flexible schedule. Source: Survey compare Music Producer –
With the necessary software and hardware, nothing can stop you from
making beats and demos for artists in the comfort of your own home. You can also sell beats and instrumentals to various artists. This can be a very lucrative business. Source: Studio lights
Fortunately, there are a couple of things you can do to guarantee your shots of skin achievement.
1. Verify you know your skin sort
Knowing your skin sort
is crucial. Is it sleek, blend, dry or typical?
• Normal skin: normally inconspicuous and smooth (you are honored on the off chance that you have this "simple" skin sort)
• Combination skin: normally sleek in the t-zone and ordinary in different zones of the face
• Dry skin: will show slight chipping and redness in spots – it needs loads of lotion
• Oily skin: typically bigger pores and a somewhat of a sparkle – particularly in the t-zone
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2. Put resources into the right items for your skin sort
Once you've made sense of your skin sort, make sure to utilize a chemical and lotion that suit your skin sort and its needs.
On the off chance that you have exceptionally sensitive, dry skin, attempt a rich chemical that won't further dry out your skin. As indicated by Glamor, salicylic corrosive cleaning agents and cleans are again better for sleek skin with bigger pores.
In the event of grown-up skin break out, make certain to counsel your dermatologist for guidance.
3. Uproot make-up appropriately
Regardless of how tired you are during the evening, evacuate that make-up immediately! There is nothing more terrible than laying down with your make-up on, it stops up the pores (zits!) and can even prompt skin unfavorable susceptibilities and rashes.
On the off chance that you are truly excessively languid, making it impossible to uproot make-up appropriately, i.e. make-up remover, chemical, toner, cream; at any rate utilize a wet wipe and take after with some night cream.
4. Sunscreen
Make sure to apply sunscreen every day. Numerous individuals observe that it stops up their pores and prompts an increment in pimples; if this is the situation, utilize a day cream with an implicit sun hinder as this is normally much lighter on your skin.
Verify its higher than SPF 30.
5. Hydrate, eat strongly, practice and rest
Yes, this is somewhat a given, yet its maybe the most critical point.
For getting healthy, the kind of food you eat is everything, rest and do. To enhance the nature of your skin, make sure to drink bunches of water, take after an adjusted eating routine, do consistent activity to sweat out every one of those poisons and open up the pores; and sufficiently rest to maintain a strategic distance from having a dull skin
The possession and use of cannabis is illegal in Nigeria, but despite
this it is still one of the commonest illicit drugs abused in the
country. Its use can lead to multiple health and psychiatric
complications. “Although cannabis is viewed as an innocent herb by
many, there is increasing concern about adverse health consequences,”
says Dr Lize Weich, senior psychiatrist and lecturer at Stellenbosch
University, South Africa. Many users become dependent on
cannabis, it is estimated that about one in nine cannabis users will
become dependent, while those who start using it in their teens have a
one in six chance to become dependent. It is also linked to other
medical complications, including heart attacks (one study found a nearly
five-fold increased risk for this in the hour after use), as well as
arrhythmias (abnormal heart rhythms) and strokes. Smoking is the
most common route of delivery of cannabis, so it is not surprising that
lung problems, like chest infections, chronic bronchitis and emphysema
are common among cannabis users. Cannabis smoke also contains
carcinogens (cancer causing agents) similar to that found in tobacco
smoke and that may predispose an individual to lung cancer. Cannabis use impairs driving ability and users are at a higher risk of car accidents. Its use in pregnancy has been linked with neuro-behavioural problems in children. “Furthermore,
cannabis intoxication can lead to multiple psychiatric complications,
like panic, anxiety, depression or psychotic symptoms,” Weich explains.
Heavy cannabis use has been linked to reduced pro-social goal-directed
behaviour (when individuals select actions based on their predicted
consequences), apathy and diminished drive, referred to by some as the
“amotivational syndrome”. Long-term cannabis use can also affect memory and the ability to process information. The
developing adolescent brain is particularly vulnerable to the adverse
effects of cannabis use. “It is the most common illicit drug used by
this group and has been linked with poor educational attainment,
dropping out of school, later unemployment and lower life satisfaction
and even with a decline in IQ,” says Weich. Adolescent onset
cannabis use has also been linked to various psychiatric problems in
this age group, including an increased risk of developing schizophrenia
and an increased risk of developing – a brain disorder which affects the
way a person behaves, thinks and sees the world. Although the cannabis plant contains in excess of 400 compounds, the most potent agent is delta 9-tetrahydrocannabinol (THC). THC
acts by activating the endocannabinoid receptor system, a delicate
system that modulates the balance in other neurotransmitter systems,
thereby ensuring optimal functioning of multiple biological functions
including learning, memory, stress, appetite, movement and pain
perception. There is some potential medicinal benefit Weich
emphasizes that although there are some early studies that suggest
potential medicinal benefit from cannabis use, including relief of
neuropathic pain, increasing appetite and treating glaucoma, there is
not yet sufficient evidence to support its efficacy and rule out harms
and human trials in this regard is still largely lacking. She says
there is concern about the popular belief that cannabis is “medicinal”
and thus “harmless and safe”, especially among children and adolescents.
Studies have shown that this vulnerable population’s risk of use is
influenced by how safely they perceive a drug to be. “It is
clear that legalising cannabis for medicinal use is an important topic
that needs careful consideration. Much more research is required to
establish efficacy along with a clear public message highlighting risks,
especially among the youth,” says Weich.
Modern Muse gives our Muslim readers some great tips and tricks on how to look radiant during Ramadaan. Don’t
panic, this month I can help you with a few easy tips on how to make
you look and feel good by enhancing your natural beauty. One
of the main reasons we stay clear of makeup during this holy month is
not to attract the opposite sex. However, it is permissible to wear
kohl, because this is on the outline of your eyes. Also, by eating a
healthy meal, sufficient sleep and trying these natural beauty regimes
are important to maintain a gorgeous skin, inside and out. Your face Exfoliate your face twice a week, Bharti Vyas suggests her gentle facial exfoliator recipe: 2 heaped teaspoons fine oatmeal 2 teaspoons double cream Mix
ingredients and apply to your skin, gently massage it with the balls of
your fingers in light circular movements, then rinse off with water.
For a deep cleansing and radiance boost, fill a bowl with boiling water
and add the juice of half a lemon and a dash of rosewater. For a lovely
treat add rose petals. Hold your face about 20-30 cm above the bowl and
place a towel over your head to trap vapours. Steam your face for three
minutes. This technique will help open pores and is a great cleanser for
your skin leaving it radiant and soft. Your eyes Treat
your eyes by soaking two cotton wool pads in cold camomile tea, leave
on for 10 min and relax, it has a cooling and soothing effect. Your body and feet Make
your own body scrub by mixing a handful of oatmeal and bran with rose
water. Use a loofah and massage into damp skin, moving in small circular
motions, this improves circulation for a healthier body. By
exfoliating at least twice a week your skin will look smoother and will
have a healthy glow. For a special foot treat, soak your feet in a bowl
of luke warm water; add a few drops of peppermint, chamomile and
lavender essential oils. A foot pamper helps relax your mind, it’s one
of the most loved beauty indulgence. Your lips By
not wearing lipstick, lipgloss or lipbalm during the Ramadaan, your
lips feel dry and might even be chapping. At night try and slick on a
coat of Vaseline or lipbalm to keep your lips hydrated. General tips To
maintain a healthy skin, try and drink at least two litres of water
each day, I know this is sometimes not possible during Ramadaan but try
to drink at least two glasses in the morning and two glasses at night. A
cup of boiling water and a few drops of lemon juice can flush out any
impurities that may have built up in your system overnight. During
the fast you might not have much time to prepare a well-balanced and
nutritious meal, have a look at your local pharmacy to find the best
natural source of vitamins and minerals for your daily intake. Having a
banana and apple at suhoor/ sehri is a rich source of potassium, an
essential mineral that helps balance your body‘s PH and body fluids, it
also help maintain your normal blood pressure.
You know when people use the word “literally” when they mean
“figuratively” and then you get all snooty and tell them they literally
don’t know what literally means? Well the joke’s on you, ma’am. Since
the incorrect usage of “literally” was so widespread, The Oxford
English Dictionary officially changed the meaning of literally to
include both definitions. In 2011 already. So while literally still
means in a literal sense as in: “Advanced Ebola symptoms include literally bleeding from the eyes” it also officially means in a figurative sense as in: “The last Game of Thrones episode literally made my eyes bleed.” So literally can literally mean figuratively these days. While
this might be an acrid pill to swallow for the staunch upholders of
English grammar, I actually think it’s pretty cool. Languages evolve
through time and usage and the only languages that do not change are the
dead ones. Besides, there are many other words that we use daily that
didn’t originally mean what they mean in today’s usage. “Awesome”
is a great example. It used to mean inspiring awe or terror. A natural
disaster or a god would be awesome. Not a night out with friends, or
getting to leave work early on a Friday. “Amazing” is another
one. It’s supposed to mean "to cause great wonder or astonishment". Yet,
no one will blink an eye, or more pertinently, ask you what happened if
you tell them you had an amazing chicken salad for lunch. This is
all good and well if everyone knows the new meanings and uses the words
in the same way of course. Which brings me to my point this week… These
days I’m a big believer in building human relationships, mending rifts
between the sexes and striving for harmony in general. Which is why I
want to make a public service announcement right here in black on white: “FINE” IS NOT A COMPLIMENT. AND YOU SHOULD NEVER ATTEMPT TO USE IT AS SUCH. It
is all very well that the word originally meant satisfactory or
pleasing, but any woman can tell you that saying “Fine” in response to
“How do I look?” is a deeply and incredibly stupid thing to do. No one wants to look fine. Unless it’s with a long “I”. As in “damn, girl, you fiiiiiiiiiiiiine”. There are literally dozens of other adjectives you can use that can denote a wide, nuanced variety of positivity in your response. Fine is not one of them. And while I’m at it, when you ask her how she is, hours later after the dragon fire has died down, and she says “I’m fine”, that’s probably not meant positively either.
I find it so interesting how we can see repeated patterns in our
girlfriends but not in ourselves. Right now my best friend forever is
going through a difficult time. All of her relationships have been
difficult and ended disastrously. And her current partner, who has a
dreadful history with women, is behaving like a real bastard. She’s
in turmoil. I spend hours listening to her, nodding my head, rubbing
her shoulders, making her tea and passing her tissues. What I
really want to do is scream and shake her, yell at her to dump him,
plot the murder, tell her to quit the games, the lies, the drama and
move on. But I bite my tongue. Because she knows what she should
be doing; she just can’t do it. And really, she just wants someone to
listen to her. Which I do, gladly and patiently. Maybe not always patiently, because I do sometimes roll my eyes and I do sometimes actually shake her. But,
I listen because I am her friend. I also support her because she is my
friend, but it kills me that she has sleepless nights over this guy. It kills me that he makes her unhappy. It kills me that I know she has no future with him. But
it kills her a lot more than it kills me. She’s in it and it should be
easy for her to get out of. But it isn’t. These things are always
complicated. And I know this because I have been in it too. Or I
am in it too. And right now there is probably someone writing a story
about me and my obsession with this guy and a relationship that is going
nowhere. Yet I too cannot see my way out of it. We all repeat patterns. We all get stuck. We can all say what someone else should do, but we don’t do it ourselves. Is
it because we thrive on the drama? Is it because we are scared of the
alternative? Or is it because secretly we hope that something is going
to shift and we really love the guy so think it’s worth putting up with a
lot of bad for a little bit of good? Of course it isn’t worth
putting up with the bad. Goodness, girls, we deserve much better than
that. We just get stuck and we somehow need to learn how to unstick
ourselves. We need to stop being scared. We need to be ready for change. We all need to learn to move on when it’s time to move on.
My intention for Ramadan is to accept what is in my heart and soul,
rather than be on the edge of my emotions. I refuse to allow feelings
and negatives to trick me into myopia and forgetfulness. I am the Almighty’s creation! I want this month to imprint something on me and in my life which has been missing. During
this month, every sinner makes an intention to emerge a better person. I
begin with sacrifice, to worship, to take my heart and engulf it in the
blessings which this month holds for us, to lay my soul bare, so that
it will be cleansed. I have a feeling of euphoria about this
sacred time, being able to try again for the 43rd time. Who knows if I
will see the 44th? I want change to happen from within. I want to
look outward without my vision of life altered with an omnipresent layer
of dirt, shift the grime and help my heart and soul flourish. I
see how people treat each other, how materialistic the world has become.
How people hurt each other for the love of money and status. Assisting
a person comes with conditions. Most of us are wandering around lost,
searching for peace and happiness yet we lack compassion and empathy.
The thing which stands between us and that search is our Ego. I
need to conquer my ego, I need to realise that I have made errors and
bad judgement calls. I need to start from the bottom and shed the ton of
unnecessary baggage weighing me down. I need to take
responsibility for everything that has gone wrong. Holding myself, and
my decisions/choices accountable for everything that has happened. We can’t change the course of events. Everything is written out for us, but earnest prayer can change our circumstances. We
all suffer through various challenges, we rejoice at the blessings we
received, we learn to have a grateful heart when we go through testing
times, we learn humility when we meet those who have nothing. Our
Creator doesn’t give us more than we can bear. We see his endless mercy
if we learn to look close enough, even in the most trying of times. Though it won't be easy, I pray that I will: - Learn to accept the things I cannot change and not allow them to make me bitter or resentful. - Find the good in everything, no matter how hard it may seem. - Live my life in a state of gratitude instead of shame or guilt, for the blessings the Almighty has bestowed on me. We
as humans have been given amazing bounties in life, and we forget the
true source of these bounties. This is the time when one remembers who
actually made this all possible, with gratitude and humility. Fasting
instills in us consciousness of the Almighty. The month of
Ramadan is about purifying the soul, teaching discipline, feeding the
hungry, and communing with God. It’s about abstaining from bad habits,
whether they be profanity or gossip. It’s not just about one's
stomach, its every part of your body. Everything in one has to fast.
Though you are starving your body, you are feeding your soul. For
me, I want this month to revive and resuscitate me, and the first step
is to be honest with myself, and at the end of this I will rise like a
phoenix from the ashes.
The Earth has entered a new period
of extinction, a study by three US universities has concluded, and
humans could be among the first casualties.
The report, led by the
universities of Stanford, Princeton and Berkeley, said vertebrates were
disappearing at a rate 114 times faster than normal. The findings echo those in a report published by Duke University last year. One of the new study's authors said: "We are now entering the sixth great mass extinction event." The last such event was 65 million years ago, when dinosaurs were wiped out, in all likelihood by a large meteor hitting Earth. "If
it is allowed to continue, life would take many millions of years to
recover and our species itself would likely disappear early on," said
the lead author, Gerardo Ceballos.
The scientists looked at historic rates of extinction for vertebrates - animals with backbones - by assessing fossil records. They
found that the current extinction rate was more than 100 times higher
than in periods when Earth was not going through a mass extinction
event. Since 1900, the report says, more than 400 more vertebrates had disappeared. Such a loss would normally be seen over a period of up to 10,000 years, the scientists say. The study - published in the Science Advances journal - cites causes such as climate change, pollution and deforestation. Given
the knock-on effect of ecosystems being destroyed, the report says
benefits such as pollination by bees could be lost within three human
generations.
Stanford University professor
Paul Ehrlich said: "There are examples of species all over the world
that are essentially the walking dead. "We are sawing off the limb that we are sitting on." The International Union for Conservation of Nature (IUCN) says at least 50 animals move closer to extinction every year. Around 41% of all amphibians and 25% of mammals are threatened with extinction, it says.
Most at risk: the lemur
According to the IUCN, the lemur faces a real struggle to avoid extinction in the wild in the coming years. The
group says that 94% of all lemurs are under threat, with more than a
fifth of all lemur species classed as "critically endangered". As
well as seeing their habitat in Madagascar destroyed by illegal logging,
lemurs are also regularly hunted for their meat, the IUCN says. What were the five mass extinction events? Last
year, a report by Stuart Pimm, a biologist and extinction expert at
Duke University in North Carolina, also warned mankind was entering a
sixth mass extinction event. But Mr Pimm's report said the current rate of extinction was more than 1,000 times faster than in the past, not 114, as the new report claims. The
new report's authors said it was still possible to avoid a "dramatic
decay of biodiversity" through intensive conservation, but that rapid
action was needed.
When I was first dating my boyfriend, he texted me one night
saying he was going for a drink with my friend Lisa. They had bumped
into each other at a work event. I immediately had a sick feeling in my
stomach. Lisa is attractive and charming (most men I know like her or
have slept with her). I didn’t say anything about my feelings at the
time, but recently he got a text from Lisa and I got upset. I know we
have a good relationship and I am probably overreacting, but I am
wondering where these feelings are coming from and if I should listen to
them. I trust my boyfriend, but these interactions with Lisa bother me a
lot. What can I do? It doesn’t seem as if you trust your
boyfriend much. If you did, he should be able to hang out with the
goddess Aphrodite and that would be OK. Maybe your jealousy is entirely
unfounded, but I happen to think that the strong feelings you describe
are there for a reason. It could be the result of past experiences that
you’re bringing to this relationship – but if something feels wrong,
that voice is worth listening to. Every relationship has different rules and expectations that are best
established at the beginning, rather than building on a foundation of
distrust and resentment. Since Lisa is your friend (not an old friend of
his), it doesn’t seem entirely appropriate for her to text your
boyfriend and set up impromptu drinks meetings on a regular basis. Let
your boyfriend know you don’t feel comfortable with it, and why, and
come to an agreement about what is and isn’t OK with both of you. He
might have some requests of his own with which you might not totally
agree, but having a healthy relationship requires some compromises for
the sake of your partner’s feelings, and that should be the priority
here. As far as Lisa goes, she should know better. There are some women who
tirelessly take on the femme fatale role, unsatisfied until they’re
sure they have the attention of every man, whether or not he is taken.
Maybe she’s one of these types, maybe not, but let’s just say that if
she makes a habit of texting your boyfriend without including you –
unless she’s advising him what to get you for your birthday or
anniversary – I’d definitely lose darling Lisa.
A genuine smile may help you form a new friendship or romantic partnership, a new study suggests. Drawn to positive feelings That's
because people seem to respond much better to positive emotions when
forming new personal bonds than to negative vibes such as sadness, anger or contempt, according to the researchers. However, don't try to fake a smile to win someone over, because people can easily identify whether a smile is sincere. In
one experiment, the researchers found that dating couples could
accurately track their partners' positive emotions. A second experiment
found that participants tended to feel closer to strangers who displayed
positive emotions, and were drawn to positive feelings almost
instinctively. The investigators also found that people
display positive emotions with a so-called Duchenne smile, which
involves simultaneous movement of two facial muscles around the eyes and
cheeks and primarily occurs when people are sincere and happy. Others
see this type of smile as sincere and it helps with social bonding.
People are highly aware of this type of smile and are good at "reading" a
fake smile," according to study leader Belinda Campos of the University
of California, Irvine. The study was published recently in the journal Motivation and Emotion. "Our
findings provide new evidence of the significance of positive emotions
in social settings and highlight the role that positive emotions display
in the development of new social connections. People are highly attuned
to the positive emotions of others and can be more attuned to others'
positive emotions than negative emotions," Campos said in a journal news
release.
Let's face it, we all love a good manicure. It doesn't even have to be perfect or done in a salon, it must just look fancy... We recently spotted the wonderful nail work done by Chi Chi at Topshop's launch of Kylie and Kendall Jenner's fashion range for Topshop. She is a South African nail artist who is insanely creative - trust us, just check out her Instagram account. So,
inspired by her out-there, beautiful graphic nail creations, we give
you a few manicure ideas to try on those cold, pajamas-weather days when
you are kind of bored, but not bored enough to actually go outside and
do something: Army nails! Do it with Essie. Go a bit psychedelic with these dreamy colours. The negative space mani is so easy and looks unique and beautiful. Do the classic French mani, but with a black and metallic twist. The pinstriped monochrome mani. Colour bonanza. This
might be a bit more tricky to master, but using an eyebrow brush can
work wonders to create this effect. The look was inspired by the Kendall
and Kylie Jenner collection for Topshop. Grey
nails are huge at the moment! Mix things up and try it with one nail in
a different colour - gold or silver always work fantastically.
Make gravity work for you Every woman should
know how to drape her body to its best advantage. Plump girls know they
look great draped horizontally across tumbled sheets. Skinny girls look
wickedly sexy sitting back on their heels. You know your angle – so use
it. Worried about your tummy? Lie on your back! Small boobs? Don’t lie on your back! And so on.
You don’t have to be beautiful to be erotic Sexy
is not to be confused with pretty. In fact, the opposite is often true.
Now is not the time to worry about your hair or make-up. Sweaty,
dishevelled, flushed, wicked, desperate… now that works. Just because you’re not standing doesn’t make it less urgent or less sexy I
know so many women who are unhappy because they wish they were thin
enough to wrap their legs around their partners and have crazy stand-up
sex. Some things, like comedy and cooking work better standing. Sex
isn’t one of them, so just let it go. You don’t HAVE to face each other If you’re feeling and looking a little worse for the wear in the morning, don’t fret. Just turn around.
Spoon sex is great and you don’t have to worry about your wrinkles in
the harsh light of day or your less than minty fresh breath. On the chubby side? Being
overweight doesn’t mean that your sex life has to suffer. There ARE
ways – and positions – that will help you achieve maximum pleasure. Don’t believe me? Check out this full-bodied sex position that will leave you wanting to rip your clothes off in no time! Try positions that focus on sensitivity rather than capability Let’s
be honest. Some positions are best suited for endurance freaks who
probably missed their gruelling gym session and now, overwhelmed with
guilt, want to punish themselves by performing moves that will make even
Arnie feel a bit embarrassed. Instead of attempting the bizarre
and some downright stupid sex positions, try something slow and sensual
that guarantees clitoral stimulation.